Why I still use foursquare

Written by on July 3, 2012 in Uncategorized - 21 Comments

Foursquare, some people think you are so over.

When I read Jim Mitchem’s manifesto on why he no longer uses Foursquare, I nodded my head and understood. I agreed, even.

But there’s a difference between Jim and me. I have some Foursquare ”friends” who used to be my actual real life friends. We checked in a lot together. It was fun, in a juvenile way. It was about the camaraderie, not the badges.

Now I suppose those people truly are just Foursquare “friends,” and not actual friends, because I just don’t plain old don’t like being around them anymore, even though we used to be quite close.

The feeling is mutual, for all sorts of reasons. Most have all the charm of middle school squabbles. Some are more serious than that. At the time the way the situation played out was painful, but a few months after the fact it more laps at digging discomfort.

So here’s why I still use Foursquare:  I can track the moves of people I don’t necessarily want to see. That way I can avoid them in my little bubble of a neighborhood, or I can be ready for some thorny eye-cutting, whispers, and distressed body language. This happens while my heart beats in my ears, screaming at me to fight or fly when I’m faced with it.

It’s hard for me to pretend that I don’t see people whom I once held dear, even if it is the best thing for me. The childish part of me wants to give them the Stink Eye or flip them off or worse, but I know that will only feel good for a second.

I’m not using Foursquare to pander to a silly social network that is not meeting its potential. I’m using it for self-preservation.

I’ll also admit to still using it for the same reason I have always used it, which is that I like for other people to know I’m having a good time. Or that I’m having a better time than they are right that second.

Don’t pretend like you don’t do it, too. Maybe you aren’t doing it on Foursquare, but Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and the like all have that “Highlight Reel” pretense. Anyone using any social networks buys into it at least a little bit.

The truth is that most of the time I’m at home doing less than fun activities like laundry, dishes and bathroom floor sanitizing. (You know that book Everyone Poops? Well at my house, some of us poop on the floor here and there. Good times.)

I know that everyone else is mostly likely doing things they’d rather not be doing for at least part of the time, too. But as long as people keep checking in on Foursquare, I’ll have an idea of when and where they are, and whether I care to be there with them.

21 Comments on "Why I still use foursquare"

  1. Andrea s July 4, 2012 at 11:33 pm · Reply

    That is why I don’t use four square. I could pop up anywhere and you would never know. Also, scramble is way more fun. :)

    • Tricia July 5, 2012 at 9:07 am · Reply

      Fortunately, you aren’t one the people to whom I’m referring. I’m always excited to see you, Dre Day.

      And if you ever stop Scrambling with me, I will know something is wrong and send an ambulance to help you.

  2. Kim@madeinaday July 5, 2012 at 10:21 am · Reply

    Ha! This cracked me up! Wow sounds like my neighborhood, I got to know some people a little too much a little too quickly and need to step back from them. Would be awesome to track them…..Facebook does a decent job of it though for me.

    • Tricia July 5, 2012 at 12:49 pm · Reply

      Kim, it seems like that is the common denominator is being too close, too quickly, or for me being a little too trusting that people are what they say they are. I found out the hard way that they aren’t always. Won’t make that mistake again.

  3. Suzanne July 5, 2012 at 11:08 am · Reply

    I don’t use 4 Square for two reasons:

    1) I have yet to make any friends (or enemies) that I need to track here in the Austin area.
    2) Haven’t bothered to figure it out, which I guess is good since apparently it is now “uncool”. For once I am ahead of the game.

    More likely lagging behind technologically speaking.

    But for your reasons stated above, – totally get why you want to avoid people. Anytime I can prevent the sudden plummeting of my stomach and slowly backing away from the frozen food section I can avoid conversation with someone is a good thing.

    • Tricia July 5, 2012 at 12:54 pm · Reply

      Suzanne, it makes me feel a little better to know other people have the feeling of not wanting to see certain people. I used to blame myself; I thought it was me being too hard to get along with, or that I was being too hard on other people. I’ve realized though that the best part of being an adult is that I don’t have to be around people I don’t like in social situations. If I don’t like someone it surely has something to do with me, but that’s okay. I can choose not to be around them.

  4. Suzanne July 5, 2012 at 1:07 pm · Reply

    Oh Tricia! You are not alone. There are some pretty horrible people in this world, and if by avoiding them altogether you (the proverbial you that is) WHY NOT? I’d say, the people on the other end feel the same way as well. Why not harness technology for your own benefit for once!

    • Tricia July 5, 2012 at 1:12 pm · Reply

      Thanks, Suzanne. That’s what I was thinking. Let’s avoid each other by utilizing technology. It’s akin to keeping people’s numbers in your phone you don’t want to talk to so that you don’t accidentally answer if they call.

  5. AshG July 5, 2012 at 8:01 pm · Reply

    What a brilliant use! We started using Foursquare (before I knew it wasn’t cool anymore, fail on my part) not that long ago so I gotta friend peeps I don’t want to run into. ;)

    • Tricia July 5, 2012 at 8:15 pm · Reply

      As long as the people I don’t want to see use it, I’m golden. It is when they stop checking in that I am screwed.

      Thanks for commenting, Ashley! And where’s our wine date?

      • AshG July 5, 2012 at 9:08 pm · Reply

        Hopefully they will continue to check in!! I’m ready for our date!! Just let me know when you can go! Can’t wait!!

      • AshG July 5, 2012 at 9:09 pm · Reply

        Oh and is it ok if I check in when we go :)

        • Tricia July 5, 2012 at 10:12 pm · Reply

          I’ll allow it. :)

  6. Sorta Southern Single Mom July 6, 2012 at 7:21 pm · Reply

    Three cheers to you for your honesty! I used it for a short time on my old phone…downloaded it when I was out with friends so we could get the free appetizer at Chili’s, but I never really USED it, KWIM? I didn’t want to advertise not being home in real time. :-) so when I got a new phone, I didn’t download it again.

    • Tricia July 6, 2012 at 8:39 pm · Reply

      It definitely isn’t being utilized as well as it could be, but that is on them. I’m just glad it is there so I can avoid people I don’t want to see and then gloat about how I’m not cleaning up poop right that minute.

  7. Jenn July 9, 2012 at 3:00 pm · Reply

    This further solidifies the fact that could qualify as an 80-year old. I still have a non-smart phone, a dumb phone, if you will. So, I guess I have missed the foursquare boat entirely if it is now passe’. I hope you aren’t trying to avoid me cause I’m all stealth with my dumb phone!

    • Tricia July 9, 2012 at 4:12 pm · Reply

      Hahahaha. I’m stalking you and your dumb phone. You can’t hide from me.

  8. Fawn @ Instead of the Dishes July 23, 2012 at 11:14 pm · Reply

    Foursquare isn’t cool anymore? Shit. Then what are the cool kids using? Just like in middle school – I’m one step behind the “in” crowd.

    PS>I use Foursquare to keep track of where I’ve been so at the end of the day when my husband asks me what I did, I can look it up on Foursquare and tell him.

    • Tricia July 24, 2012 at 9:03 am · Reply

      Ha! I was using it so I could remember what reviews I needed to write on different restaurants. Now it is self-preservation.

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